Are men and women really relationship idiots?

If, as Thoreau claimed: “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” –then what sort of lives are the mass of women leading?

While enjoying quite a nice little mind vacation from nearly all things internet/online, this morning I ventured a peak at my email –just in case I’d missed anything of life and death import only to discover that someone had indeed been “born”–literally–and a friend’s link to an essay online which apparently points directly to the dominance/power/control/etc mentality that makes relationships HELL for many westerners. Considering how such “Hell on Earth” has the potential to fuel various incarnations of violence, I think that qualifies as of “death” import. Now, the significance of sharing news of another human birth is fairly self-evident for most folks, so I decline to comment further on said new mammalian arrival. As to the import of the other piece of information received via cyberspace mail services–well, its value rests on the stew it started stirring as I composed my response to the sharer of this little missive.  Apparently relationships between women and men are doomed due to the blind acceptance of cultural conditioning of certain myths involving plays for power between the genders.  I’m wondering how much “truth” regarding male/female relationships others might find in “This is not the Berenstain Bears bedtime story” by Jon Poindexter posted in full here:

Do men and women really make each other miserable, depressed and seriously angry via blindly accepted cultural mores that have nothing to do with reality? Or are there real struggles for dominance and control in relationships upon which the “myths” Poindexter lists? Is this sort of intense gender warfare that fuels the violence against women which seems to be rampant globally? Yes, globally. If anyone knows of a place where women do not experience violence, rape, torture, and murder, please don’t hesitate to advertise this oasis.
Where am I going with this random brain drop? I’m not quite certain beyond how I’ve considered my own experiences and obesrvations in the fields of human interactions in relation to this “control” game playing. But what might be of import is where the rest of you go with the mental bait.
Now back to my unscheduled reading agenda.
  Please pass the prune danish.

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